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Comedic Kids

My kids are funny.  ROFLMBO funny.  Snicker funny.  Giggle funny.  I always say “I should write this down” when they say something hysterical.  That’s exactly what I’m about to do.

My two youngest llamas asked why some trees were green and some trees didn’t have any leaves while we were driving to town last week.  An impromptu CARschool homeschool lesson about the differences between evergreen and deciduous trees began.  I asked for an example of a tree that is green around Christmas time that is not a pine tree.   They were stumped so I gave them the answer.

When I said “Christmas trees are evergreen,” my oldest daughter said “Right! Because they are plastic!!!”

Obviously our tree is not a live one.   I think it is still pretty anyway.

What kind of tree does your family use?

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Mommy Wars

I am not sure of the origination of the “Mommy Wars.”  Maybe it was when women went into the workforce and it was SAHM vs. WOHM.  Now it seems to have grown into mom vs. mom for every parenting choice.  Breastfeeding vs. formula feeding.  CIO vs. AP sleep methods.  And the mommy wars rear their ugly head any time someone shares a choice they have made.  If your choice is different than another mother’s choice, it is like firing the first shot and the back and forth defending your choice begins.

We have so many more connections to other mothers because of the internet.  Women are able to get support from each other so that we are less isolated as we journey through motherhood.  This is a wonderful thing for mothers!  It also makes it easier for the mommy wars to take hold. Everyone feels compelled to chime in.   Many times this can be done respectfully, and sometimes the respect degrades and feelings get hurt.

I read an article yesterday by feminist Erica Jong. In “Mother Madness”,  she presents a disconcerting view on  a parenting style called “attachment parenting” (also known as ‘AP’).  She completely misses the mark when she speaks out against how others choose to parent.  The WHOLE point of the feminist movement was to bring choices to women, even if that choice is being a SAHM mom who enjoys attachment parenting.  Interestingly, on the same page as Jong’s article, there is a link to an article written by her daughter, Molly.  Further reading connects the dots and it seems Jong’s article is simply a mother trying to justify her parenting choices while bashing another’s, including her daughter’s.

Attachment parenting is a choice, and certainly not the only way to parent.  Many mothers embrace it, but just like mothers who choose something other than AP, if you don’t take the time to take of yourself then you run the risk of being overwhelmed, overworked, overtired, and frustrated.  Moms, no matter your parenting method, you must take care of yourself for it to work.

And as for the so-called Mommy wars…

So let’s all say it together:  Stop the Mommy wars.  You, too, Erica Jong.

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5 things homeschooling has taught me

  1. Picking up sticks in the yard is technically P.E.
  2. My patience needs improvement.
  3. While you are engrossed in microscope exploring with the 8 year old, there is a 105% chance the 3 year old is  jumping up and down on the bed with an open can of mixed nuts that will be an empty can of mixed nuts by the time you realize what is going on.
  4. School days go much better for everyone with a good night’s sleep.
  5. The thing you would miss the most is running errands and grocery shopping without the kids.

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You are right where you should be

I have been a stay-at-home-mom since my son was born in June 2001.  For over nine years I have changed diapers, breastfed, wiped snotty noses.   I have spent countless sleepless nights rocking and calming gassy babies, sitting in a steamy bathroom with croupy toddlers, and all night nurse-fests all in the name of the latest growth spurt.

I did not know what type of career I wanted when I graduated from high school.  I graduated 20 out of nearly 300 students.  I was a math nerd, an AP student, and had no idea what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I once told my mom that I wanted to be a teacher when I grew up.  My mom thought she had my best intentions at heart when she suggested I consider something else “because they don’t get paid very much.”  Context: my mom was a single mom at the time truly struggling in the days before WIC and a more generous food stamp program.   She simply did not want me to struggle as she was struggling.

So I go on to college with all kinds of scholarships and financial aid.  I still had no clue what I didn’t want to do with my life.  All I knew is that I was thankful that I had already received credit for my math classes (thank you AP test).  Long story short, I did not finish college.  I hold an A.A. degree and a handful of credits beyond that.

Somewhere in between then and now my husband and I were blessed with three children.  The first one, a son, rocked our world and our priorities.  We knew that I was supposed to be his primary caregiver.  We made the leap, one of faith, to be sure, and have never looked back.

Two more children have been added to our family, both girls.  Now that my youngest is four years-old, I find myself thinking about my unfinished degree and possible careers.  And yet I am at the beginning of a new path:  homeschooling.  We began our second year of homeschooling this fall, and it has been great for the children and our family.  At this point, we intend to continue homeschooling as long as it continues to work for our family.

This year I have struggled with where my path is leading.  Is homeschooling where God is leading me?  Is a career related to one of my many passions (which I am sure to blog about at some point) what God has planned?  As I work through all of this, I am finding that God is showing me things along the way like this inspirational art by Donna Downey:

I am right where I should be.  Home with my children raising young people who will eventually become meaningful, purposeful participants in this world.  Volunteering my time to women and babies.  All of these things are important.  I don’t have to save the world.  I don’t have to give up my dreams and pursuits in order to be present with my children.  I don’t have to give up being with my children for my dreams and pursuits.  Sequencing is something I am interested in learning more about lately.  Understanding that there is a time and place for everything and that I cannot see the bigger picture that God can see has been pivotal, leading me toward contentment.  I am right where I should be and I am thankful that God showed me what I was missing, which turned out to be nothing at all.

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